Receiving Affirmations
  • Hypothesis: life inherently giving -> tf IF barriers to Receiving removed THEN life’s givingness rushes in.
  • Natural paradigm: attract & receive (receptivity) <-> pursue goals (activity)
    The more we are aware of the interdependent nature of our lives, the clearer becomes our view of Ourselves,our Environment, our Goals.
  • Nature’s story: both giving-receiving & reaching their goals -> self-perpetuating
UNDERSTANDING RECEIVING
  • def. RECEIVE = to accept willingly
  • def. RECEPTIVITY = ready & willing to receive
  • def. RECIPROCITY = a mode of exchange in which transactions take place between individuals who are symmetrically placed.
receptive states:
meditating, listening, feeling grateful, accepting, allowing, opening, relaxing, letting go, noticing, observing, welcoming, yielding, including, embracing, feeling, hearing, appreciating, being, contemplating, watching, letting be, attracting, revealing, acknowledging
active states:
analyzing, talking, investigating, controlling, influencing, promoting, multitasking, persuading, defining, judging, exploring, shaping, pushing, holding, thinking, informing, building, doing, acting, performing, going after, hiding, forcing, evaluating
Active & Receptive states a team - each pulling own weight
IF value receiving THEN attract what want. how? gives WILL (active state) a chance to rest & feel supported.
For every Giver there is a Receiver :)
experience connection, mutual fulfilling -> experience UNITY bc feel wholeness / create CONNECTION
For every Doer there is a Taker :(
not energized, emotionally fulfilled interactions -> experience SEPARATION bc feel lack

Receivers <-> Givers
Namaste
= “I honor the God in You that is in Me” <sanskrit greeting, blessing unity of life>
tf genuine giving-receiving = recognition of other / acknowledgement of sameness / our harmony (vibrate to same chord - are melody of One)
Gratitude
= How receiver gives back to giver (reciprocity built in when Receiver acknowledges Giver) 

Receiving is not ... passive
  • def. RECEPTIVITY = a willingness to receive impression or ideas
    vs. def. PASSIVE = to be influenced or acted upon w/o exerting influence or acting in return. syn. SUBMISSIVE
  • => receptiveness, not passive activity -> takes much energy to interpret, learn Environment
    practical: initiate activity -> observe results

Giving is not ... enabling
skewed thinking: that giving naturally engenders appreciation / consideration
skilled receivers are attracted to those to whom they can give & those that give to them
receive everything - decide later (via healthy boundaries - good judgement)
giver - does not feel compelled to hand over everything requested (common sense)
receiver - does not feel obligated to do/think/say anything that dn feel comfortable (good judgement)
wait, pause, give yourself time - allow self to sit fro a while with circumstances, feelings
  • benefits: give yourself all data / inc options / time to explore options / more likely to be happy with decisions / unlikely to be in denial/
  • -> more likely to make realistic decisions on where are now (instead of where you wish you were)

Give-Receive reciprocation in Whole One time-space (not your time-space)
no indebtness:
Experienced Receivers dn fear indebted to Giver bc gate of giving-receiving swings both ways (receive sometimes, give sometimes). 
random acts of kindness:
passing on kindness to someone other than the one who performed the deed for you.
UNDERSTANDING GOALS
Goal = “someone” have relationship with -> communicate clearly what want.
to start - Goal needs to know you exist! -> communicate w/it (Smile. say hello. Let it know what you want.)
Goal writing
  • write 1 goal / write goal down in 1 complete sentence / be specific & clear / give goal a deadline / goal should be measurable (how know received it)
  • Start with paragraph to get things clear in your mind -> then write in 1 sentence declaration
  • Do not worry about grammar -> just start process -> will revise goal as relationship develops
manifestation in present tense, but power in how said, not words
FUTURE SPEAK - I will do laundry tomorrow
PRESENT SPEAK - I’m dong laundry
NO PERSONAL REFERENCE TO FUTURE - Tomorrow laundry (latvian grammar best)
summary:
To start relationship with Goal choose something what want / can recognize when receive / ->
-> write in 1 sentence
Once relationship with Goal started ...
-> set it aside -> let is speak to you (hear-receive what goal telling you)
SUMMARY
A good Receiver is attracted to Givers-Receivers
Receiving is  spiritual / wholistic / natural

Want. Ask. Receive.
Want
Be receptive to you inner life, feelings. Nothing wrong with wanting something for yourself.
Ask
Then ask for it. Sometimes answer is yes, sometimes no. The point of asking is not to control outcome. Is to get used to including you into your desires and relationships.
Receiving
Express gratitude when people give something to you. (compliment, gift, encouragement)
-> tf give back to Giver

Top 10 features of skilled Receivers
  1. They know how to accept a compliment and are genuinely pleased to receive it.
  2. They regularly express gratitude.
  3. Their attention is on the present rather than dwelling on the past or fretting about the future.
  4. They are good listeners.
  5. They are observant.
  6. They define a “good person” as a whole person rather than someone who places other people’s needs above their own.
  7. They do not enable people.
  8. They know how to cease activity and listen or ask for guidance.
  9. They utilize data in their environment to help them make decisions.
  10. They don’t complain. 
  • The world gives only what you can receive.
    The only possible match for someone that dn receive, is someone who does not know how to give.
  • For every doer there is a taker.
    For every giver there is a receiver.

Butterfly Bushes
Nature’s mutual interdependence of giving-receiving
butterfly bushes: survival on being able to attract pollinators
butterflies: survival on being able to drink nectar from flowers
=> bush & butterfly are both giving-receiving -> both fulfilling their goals of survival
  • We are participants in Nature’s cooperative interplay (True)
    BUT we often think something happens bc we alone make it happen (False)
  • :(  Using just 1 measuring stick. Looking at what we do isolated, unnatural context
    • we exaggerate importance of initiative
    • allocate most/all resources towards active pursuit of goal
  • :)  Achieve goal by attracting it (inviting it to move towards us) (like butterfly drawn towards butterfly bush) 
The more we are aware of the interdependent nature of our lives, the clearer becomes our view of ourselves / our environment / our goals.
The Natural story (both giving-receiving & reaching their goals -> self-perpetuating)
“Butterfly bushes. Called this because butterflies are drawn like a magnet to their bright colors & sweet fragrance. These delicate creatures drink the nectar, and as they move from flower to flower, they carry sticky pollen from one butterfly bush to another.”
Current Society (how we were taught)
“Each summer butterfly bushes would run around the neighborhood, waving their blossoms trying to convince butterflies that they are the best butterfly bush around and that the butterflies should follow them home and pollinate their flowers.
=> doesn’t it seem silly to complicate Nature - a waste of time and money? Yet how often have we chased a goal (job, relationship) and ended up feeling as depleted as these butterfly bushes? 
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