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Accept Compliments

= Accept graciously, say thank you.

IF Life gives to those who cannot receive THEN as soon as can receive, life gives.

Celebrate life’s giving:

• Receive the pleasure of living in a world where people compliment you, are kind to you & considerate of you. Be genuinely appreciative. Be excited by it! Celebrate! Life’s abundance is everywhere... and the more you notice it, the more life gives.

Gratitude / Appreciation

= being receptive to life’s abundance

Is within a person (completely independent of external circumstances)

inc focus on gratitude -> inc capacity to receive

Receive manifest goals bc they appreciate goals

Gratitude rules (to strengthen receive Muscles)

• Say you are grateful (Giver appreciated & inc probability that Give again)
• No degree of gratitude (not more grateful for one thing over other. Brain just registers “gratefulness”)

Be Authentic / Self-Revealing

IF embrace wholeness THEN others will also

• easier to bond when come across as human (kindred spirit) / is relaxing to be in the presence of imperfect being & easier to manifest when relaxed.

-> declaration of wholeness

Complaints Fast

= No complaints about your story (telling your victim story)

because IF complain about your Goal THEN Goal scared away / people scared away

complaints

• push away (do not draw things towards you)
• discharge energy (w/o changing outcome)
• are about story - rather than feelings

DO stay in touch w/feelings (receive circumstances) (ex. feel unappreciated)

DO NOT catalog injustices (deflect circumstances) (ex. whine of boss & job)

=> when talk about FEELINGS - both you and others relate

• speak your EXPERIENCES, not your storyline
• IF impulse to complain THEN check w/emotions instead
  -> can make choices about circumstances that are distressing

Change "good person" cultural view => "whole person" Universal view

problem: The societal “good person” role - tells what should give & not what want to give.

• Considered selfish, if someone could benefit from your time, attention, help
• IF you dn see yourself as important THEN why would you Goal perceive you as ideal choice for manifesting its desire. Broadcasting to yourself/others that you are a “good person” whose needs & desires are less important than those of others!
• examples.
  • IF goal = better job THEN there is a better candidate than you.
  • IF goal = attract great relationship THEN that wonderful person will be attracted to someone else - the one whose desires are more important than yours.
  • IF goal - inc income THEN money will find someone who dn feel that someone else could use it more than you.

solution: be authentic whole person in Universe

Receiving is Spiritual / Universal / Network

Monk story: after religious training -> beg for alms

= declaration of unity (Giver-Receiver are One)

• We are all in this together
• Experience pleasure of grateful recipient
  -> obvious at that moment that giving-receiving are flip sides of the same coin.

exercise:

• Think of Self as monk w/bowl, red to receive love, kindness, respect, affection.
• Think of Goal as person who wants to honor you & give to you.

Help Goal & Yourself by seeing Receiving as an act of generosity that demonstrates your wholeness & your connection with others.

Unity Principle includes You

emotions

• Need acknowledgement to be received
• Accepting/Receiving -> is recognize that are part of being human.
• They come & go like a wave in ocean <Dala Lama>

including Self

• means you are integral part of whole (universe, world, community, family, relationship)
• (vs. exclude - think of others more worthy than self)

unified Self

• all parts of self includes
  • difficult unhealed parts
  • easy to embrace, healed parts
• (vs. un-unified self = disowned aspects (in shadow, subconscious) parts not acknowledged in self, we are drawn to in others)

=> integrating, receiving, embracing all aspects of self ->

• Prevents us from becoming involved w/unhealthy relationships
• Powerful expression of Self-love

DO NOT set up blocks for Goal to reach You (include you)

• skewed thinking:
  • Need to “fix self” bf do goal
  • Conclude there is no chance of success bf investigating

What do You want?

Not knowing what want - symptom of not knowing how to receive.

• how can you know, when gate
  • dn swing towards you (receiving)
  • only swings away from you (giving)

Easy to state what dn want - vague/fuzzy when explain what do want.

reality: wanting something yourself is as natural as wanting something for someone else.

Dealing with not getting what want:

Disappointment - natural when want something & dn get it.

• soln. cultivate ability to sit w/disappointment

Asking for anything -> risk of rejection - which is ok

• DN objective = get everything ask for
  • No healthy relationship about getting everything want
    bc will never ask for anything unless can predict outcome.
• DO ask -> tf stating that do have needs. Demonstrating comfort stating needs.

One asked for what want -> answer may come in guise that least expect

• (BUT IF dn ask THEN no chance for mysterious/synchronous/magical ways to speak to us)

Cinderella’s wish “I want to go to the ball.”

Unified Universe = no thing, no one separate (no division between self and others)

Cinderella:

• broke out of victim role catering to (sweeping up after wicked stepmother & stepsisters)
  -> made a wish (go to dance, want great dress)
• tf she included herself in vision of the world. She dn make herself, her desire less imp than stepsisters
  -> miracle manifestation (fairy god mother show’s up)

prob. where we get stuck:

• Feel that cn make personal wish unless we include, at same time wish for end of homelessness and hunger

soln. artificial distinction - separates you from others

• false logic - how can effectively wish for world peace if unable to make wish for yourself?

Cinderella cont:

• Her wish to go to ball -> transformed lives around her -> stepmothers, stepsisters, prince, kingdom flourished thru circumstances from that 1 wish.

Exercise: Send Cinderella to Rehab (3 pages “I want[fill in blank]’)

Self-discovery exercise - find out what want for self/ include self in world vision 

• DO include everything- your wholeness
• DN desire for peace & goodwill / good homes for all kids -> bc already know you want those things

purpose:

• cleaning out debris of hose (debris holding everything else back)
  (ie. parts you feel guilty, geeked out, weirded out, embarrassed about)
• Takes “sting” out of being human (voice part not showcased but exists in all humans 
  -> tf greedier, grabbier wants, the better!

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