Setting Receiving Goals

STOP CHASING YOUR TALE (like dog chasing its tail)

Common story = just when given up on cherished dream, only to discover it come to them.

What is this mysterious force that delivers what desire only when stop trying to get it? Appears cruel.

Seems like life saying, “Don’t want something too much!”

-> so then we play games...

If looks possible that get cherished goal, then “knock on wood” in hoop that act will prevent which from running away.

-> religious attempts to manifest desires...

Sacrifice animals and humans to gods.
Conducting elaborate rituals.

-> current cultural beliefs...

“My wish may be granted if I do 1 or more of following” /give $ to charity / attend church / helpful to parents / work overtime / write affirmations / forgive people who have wronged me / inc my sense of self worth / promise that I won’t keep all the money if I win the lottery / feng shui my home / create an altar / meditate every day /

=> just like ancestors - we still don’t have a clue about how to get what we want.

Like dog chasing “tail” - we end up chasing out “tales”, repeatedly doing activities that dn yield results
...and if we do finally catch something - are mystified by what exactly made it happen.
Could problem be that we are neither aware of nor interested in needs and desires of others?

examples

Want to date person. “How do I get him/her?” you ask. -> reality - IF they dn want you THEN end of story

(doing activities like charity, church... listed above, won’t change a thing)

IF want job BUT people hiring dn want you THEN above rituals will not help

The job has its own requirements/needs & you may no be the right match.

therefore make sure dreams/goals are not nationalistically orientated (as if other person’s desires/needs do not count or even exist)

prob. Our ego bruised when dn get what we want.

lesson about power: we dn control everything, no matter how

wonderful our intentions
strong our desires
being really, really good & fabulously wonderful
focusing with laser like intensity on object of desire
-> dn manifest our wishes

soln. Set you intention (want something) -> listen to what your Goals/other people Goals, want from You

life is a 2-way street

Receptivity = attentive/receiving yours/others needs/desires

else, how will you know if you are a match for Goal/ or if someone wants you?

What chasing? Story from suffering past - future fantasy paradigm timeline

soln.

Receptive states (let Goal speak thru them)
You have a dream. Stand still. Be still & let it catch up with you. Once it does - receive, thank & welcome

Love Your Goal

Human nature - like people who like you -> Your Goal - wants to be liked and loved too
People who from loving relationships w/their Goals, all kept gratitude journal, complaints fast, did receive exercises
IF Your goal is for something better, how do you treat what you have now?: IF want new car THEN how do I treat one I have?; IF want to lose weight THEN how do I treat my food?; IF want a relationship THEN how do I treat the people I see everyday?; IF want better health THEN how do I treat my body?; IF want better job THEN how do I treat the one I have?

RECEIVING EXAMPLES

Receiving Money - Goal is to have more money

Chasing money Goal away

IF talk of unimportance of money THEN why would goal want to come near you?

IF think its unspiritual to want money THEN money goal will find someone else who has a better opinion of it

IF talk of being broke all the time THEN many won’t feel appreciated & unappreciated money dn multiply

ex. message therapist:

“I dn do this for money”. When client dn have money, “just send it whenever you can or bring it next time you come.” -> yet complained about money problems -> but tells client that her inability to pay unimportant
-> felt incongruous to be helpful to people and get paid for it.
ex. undercharging for services is epidemic in helping fields

IF not skilled receiver THEN trouble... / asking for raise / requesting a living wage / determining value of you skills and services / lending money you never get back /

Money-attracting Exercises

Place money of dift denominations around your house/apt (ex. dollar on table / $10 on TV / quarter on couch)

When pass them say, “You look beautiful today.” “You are amazing. I love you so much.”;
Fuss and coo over them. Show them how glad you are that they are with you!

Organize money in your wallet (ex. paper money face in same direction, group denominations)

-> pay special attention to the money you currently have in possession.
dn shove crumpled money into purse
dn have pennies, dimes scattered all over the place)
-> would you want to hang out with someone who treated you that way?

Receiving Work

Work that is satisfying, energizing and makes full use of ones talents - elusive dream for many.

Goal = job. Have idea of what would like to do so can communicate to Goal

IF dn know (unable to imagine a rewarding work life) THEN “Cinderella to Rehab” exercise

clears out the debris that preventing ideas from coming to you.

IF do know THEN write in 1 concise sentence so Goal knows you are ready to receive job

(ex advance in company at / looking for new job)

-> once written down -> Goal will begin to speak to you

tf be open Receiver - so can “hear” what goal has to say

What is Goal doing?

Evaluating your qualifications & wondering whether or not you would be an asset to the desired job
Your Goal will maintain interest in you in ratio to your job attractiveness
tf 1st job - is to become attracted to Goal

Work-Attracting Exercises

Spend several days noticing/observing/listening/accepting how people respond to you.

Receptive state:

Are you a good personality fit for your job choice?
Do you have the right temperament?
How do people receive you?

IF goal is to advance in company THEN apply exercise to people in work Environment

IF goal is to get job (unemployed) THEN apply this with everyone in contact.

=> once have info, analyze (Active State)

Do you need to make changes/adjustments; look for another job?

Commit to Complaint Fast

Work life is topic people complain about most -> stop
Remember: complaining not same as talking about feelings

Count Your Blessings

Write 5 wonderful attributes - of work have / or job want => add to list every day

When commit to Complaint Fast and List

are not denying negative, uncomfortable feelings
are putting best foot forward
=> your Goal will notice

Receiving Relationships

Relationship with your Goal <- mirrors -> relationships with others esp. intimate relationships

All have had bad relationships, painful breakup, betrayal

Takes strength to open your heart & emotions to receive love

Challenged to stay in present with current individual (not retreat to suffering past- fantasy future timeline)
IF talk to potential partner about suffering past OR vision of future fantasy THEN chase away

Your Goal wants to deliver a fabulous partner -> help your Goal help you.

Relationship-Attracting exercises

Communicate clearly:
- let Goal know what want by writing it down
- also are being clear to self about your desires
ex. What are top 5 qualities you want in relationship partner?
- (Do you have to think about it OR Do you know?) -> Tell Goal exactly what want.

Honesty essential.

Receiving relationship = receiving in right here and now (present)

(not where dn want to be - wish you were /suffering past - fantasy future/)

Manifestation in present in Big Circle

Do you have monsters in closet that are getting in the way and need to be welcomed in Big Circle?

Are you high maintenance, requiring your Goal to jump through multiple hoops to get to you?

Do you complain (aloud or silently) about relationships or about the people you have been with in past? (Remember, this is not the same as expressing your feelings.)

Are you sincerely grateful for the people who are currently in your life?

Are you looking for a mate to rescue you OR to happily bond with the person you are today?

Do you incorporate, value and exhibit the traits in yourself that you seek in another?

Receiving Health

IF dn listen to body THEN pay physical price

When body not cooperating -> easy to get angry with it.

But instead, body needs compassion
anger = adversarial relationship -> inc stress, tension, exhaustion (not helpful for healing)

Health-Attracting Exercises

Review Receptive States word list (keep copy of list with you to help)

-> stay in these states while adjust relationship with your body.

wrt body

Observe your body. What is it showing you?
Listen to your body. What is it telling you?
Appreciate your body. How does your body respond to your appreciation?
Notice your body. How does your body feel about being on radar screen?
Relax your body. How does your body respond?

Have healthy, open dialogue with body:

Tell body what you want. And then receive -> Body will communicate and let you know what feels comfortable.
=> appreciated, acknowledged body is happy.
(All relationships take into account both participants. Neither wants to be treated inconsiderately)

ONGOING LIFESTYLE

pool analogy: Stand in swimming pool. As move, water displaced around body although continually against your skin. You can see ripple effects of water’s displacement.; IF wave hand in air THEN air displaced. Can feel, but not see it.; Your thoughts, feelings, desires also displace energy - the atoms & subatomic particles around you.; Become aware of this by noticing, observing, feeling, appreciating (receptive states) tf receive what life communicating & how it responds to you. You have entered a 2-way relationship.
River of life: River of life requires you both to paddle and ride the currents. Become adept at both, helps you chart course successfully.; Strong Receiver keeps dialogue moving > w/each new conversation, life rearranges itself again.

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